But some people experience symptoms earlier — right about when they are starting to date.“When I first got sick, I felt like I think every person does who gets manic or severely depressed — utterly alone,” says Jamison, whose new biography about the poet Robert Lowell, who also had the illness, is out now from Knopf.
“There's no question that there are things that can be made easier by companionship.”Trying to find a companion, though, is hard enough without adding mental illness into the picture.
(If you are unfamiliar with the halo effect, it simply means that a person with one good quality is seen to have many good qualities.)Few, if any women will ever achieve this perfect vision in their real lives.
I have yet to meet the perfect woman on this earth, so we can assume that there is no such thing as a perfect man.
His depressive state had caused him to use alcohol as a sort of self-medication.
In many ways he was the most in need of help, but he always had the kindest words of encouragement for me and for others in the group.
"I hope it doesn't scare you off."Panicked thoughts raced through my mind. This was the odd humor Sara and I had already established, but I wasn't entirely joking.
I'd had several close bipolar friends, and had once been in a long-term relationship with a bipolar woman, Nyla, whom I still consider the smartest person I'd ever met.
Sara was twenty-seven, and what people used to call a wag: smart, quick-witted, encyclopedic.
She could recount every failed Everest expedition in mesmerizing detail -- the sort of a talent I would expect of a rock climber, not someone who'd never gone camping. Then I found out."There's something you should know about me," she said, a couple of hours into the date. I tried to remember if I'd sipped from her drink."I'm bipolar," she said."Good," I replied.
Hannah Blum, an activist and blogger about bipolar issues, says that when she told her boyfriend about her diagnosis after eight months of dating, he began to use it to manipulate her.