Gentlemen, I’m going to give it to you straight, finding out your potential girlfriend or significant other has an STD is kind of a shocker.
It might be better to break the news about herpes to someone who has already grown attached to you.
Kissing, cuddling, and fondling are safe, so you don't have to tell before you do that.
Second, don't wait until you're just about to have sex -- in which case the attraction may be too strong for either of you to think rationally and act responsibly.
If in the past you tended to start a new relationship with sex, you now might want to change your approach.
Vital: Know your sexual health; IT'S A SCARY STATISTIC, BUT IF YOU HAVE HAD FOUR SEXUAL PARTNERS IN YOUR LIFETIME, THERE IS A GOOD CHANCE YOU HAVE PICKED UPAN STD.
2015 STD Treatment Guidelines – Genital HSV Infections – Includes diagnosis, treatment, prevention, and special considerations for genital herpes infections.
This is a Herpes/HSV support group that hosts social events. WARNING: This group is for caring, supportive, community-minded members; if you are involved in criminal activity, drugs, gang activity, only looking for "hookups", or are just an unsavory character in general-this group is not for you.
The goal is for people with "H" to not feel alone, to get accurate facts (that they may not be getting from their medical professionals), and to get out socially. The meetup group is a gateway to a larger, fun, and friendly group of men and women (but you won't find out more about that until you join us and we meet you! We are here to help people deal with the everyday issues of having Herpes. We reserve the right to deny or remove members if they are deemed inappropriate for this group.
Finally, do some research on your own about the STD in question and get the facts.